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Hi Blaire <3 I can fully understand where you're coming from. I'm not transgender myself but I know the fear that you're talking about. As a woman we were always told to be careful and to not walk alone at night or to not dress a certain way, so we don't "attract" anything bad. Well, I do like to dress a certain way so... I went with it :D I chose my outfits because I was excited to wear them and because I liked them. Even tho I was nervous because it could be drawing too much attention to me.. I actually felt surprisingly good and confident. :) I think wearing clothes that you like can be a really nice and creative way of expressing yourself the way you want and it's nothing you have to be scared of. <3 Sometimes taking the first step and experiencing it in that moment will take away a lot of the fear because you are actually expressing yourself the way that you want! :) Even if some people have a different reaction than you might expect, you are now choosing to express yourself. There might be this "lag" before anything shows at first but it had happened to me that people got used to or inspired by my new energy of self expression! Remember that Elan defined fear as "putting your trust into a reality that you don't prefer". Next time the fear arises, acknowledge and embrace that fear. <3 Something is going to come to your mind that will show you where that fear is coming from. And when you're aware of it, you can change that! :) Because I can guarantee you that there is a reality right now (!!) where you rock your outfits and everyone is turning their heads by how amazing and gorgeous you look like! :D <3

I've been in similar situations!! I used to be in similar dynamics but just realized, in a sort of self-loving way, sometimes a situation can serve as a reflection that allows me to learn more unconditional love for OTHERS, and other times a situation serves more in learning unconditional love for SELF. That unconditional self-love means recognizing when a relationship is no longer conducive for mutual, authentic, empowering connection because the other being is incapable of meeting you there.

Just serving as a reflection and example, the Sassani will happily share their energy authentically with someone experiencing negativity, having their own challenges. There's no need to run away because somebody else's challenges are not YOUR challenges; there's no need at all to leave a positive state yourself. But sometimes, being in a positive state means simply leaving the room.

Perhaps that distance or choice to positively, in integrity (recognizing all as one while honoring them as an equally spiritual, Source being as you fundamentally) place a boundary is where the growth opportunity is. In the space that leaves, a more positive, conducive, empowering connection can come.

Sometimes self-love means to leave a thing that simply doesn't align with your preference. Self-love doesn't have to mean remaining with something you don't prefer figuring out how to make it seem preferable. To hold space, to see with unconditional love and the eyes of Source, does not mean you have to enjoy being disrespected, but instead empowers you to recognize you need not experience that lack of freedom, lack of power, lack of self-worth that the other person is reflecting from themselves to you. Because you don't act disrespectfully if you feel free, empowered, or as worthy of love as you truly are. Those two states exist on different wavelengths.

Asking yourself what ur highest excitement, passion, calling, or whatever is the most attractive thing for you in this situation, then doing your best to live what you find resonates in that --- is maybe the best thing! You have my support if you feel like you need some encouragement to put up a boundary with someone whose energy/behavior you neutrally don't prefer.

Elan and Bashar have said before that anger is a rush of alignment energy that brings you strongly to your preference. It's natural, for the stage of our consciousness and exploration we're at, to feel anger. Then we can let that energy flow and live out its natural life cycle by recognizing we're free to act on our highest preference and there's never, ever, ever a need to judge or fear or resist bc we experience an emotion like that.

You got this Ezinu!! ^^. All the best <3